Found on the private website of fellow Pooligan, Kim:

Polyamory talks about terms like being “primary” and “secondary” in relationships, but those don’t really make much sense to me, at least not most of the time. Those words are for talking about how you schedule someone in to your month, not for how much you love them, or how long you expect them to stick around. It’s not a meaningful distinction, in a lot of ways.

Sometimes I feel exactly the same way. Sometimes not. It’s food for thought, though…