I’ve always had a minor talent at turning a pithy phrase, and here’s what I came up with this morning:

Most of the pain in our lives is built upon a foundation of “should haves.”

I probably don’t need to illustrate this, but I’m feeling particularly emotionally grim today so I’m going to do it nonetheless. Let’s see… I should have realized right away that I have no business being married, let alone in a strictly monogamous relationship. I should have been a lot more patient and understanding with those noisy, demanding little creatures I helped to create. I should have done my homework back in school. I should have told the truth, about a lot of things. I should have stayed out of some disputes that I had no business arbitrating. I should have learned not to make promises too quickly. I should have trusted my ability to manage finances. I should have tried harder. I should have cared more.

And so on, and so on. The “should haves” outnumber the “shouldn’t haves” by a considerable margin, actually. Maybe that’s a symptom of what kind of man I am. If so, then I can’t imagine what attraction or value I have, because apparently what I’m best at is not doing things. Feh.

Gloomy thoughts for what’s supposed to be a romantic holiday, but that’s what I’ve got for you. May you and your loved ones be happier today than mine and I are this time around. Perhaps next year won’t be quite so damned grim.